Going to Bed Angry

Ephesians 4:26&27, 29-32
"In your anger do not sin." Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. 
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. 

Anger: an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong

Bitterness: having or being a taste that is sharp, acrid, and unpleasant

Rage: a feeling of intense or growing anger

Malice: a desire to harm others or to see others suffer

How many times have you gone to bed angry? When I was mad, I used to go to bed, turn my back to my wife and not talk to her. We would have an argument, get mad at each other and not speak for a couple of days. I'm sure every couple in the world has experienced this. This is not the Godly way to live.

The Bible tells us that anger can lead to sin. Anger can also lead to health problems. According to Science Daily, "When we get angry, the heart rate, arterial tension and testosterone production increases, cortisol decreases, and the left hemisphere of the brain becomes more stimulated." You can see how getting angry can be bad for your health; frequent fits of anger can lead to heart attack or stroke.

The Bible says not to let the sun go down while you are still angry-don't go to bed angry! By doing this, you are opening the door for the devil to come in and cause chaos and corruption in and reek havoc on your life and in your relationship. When you think about it, what point does going to bed angry prove? You are hurting yourself, physically and mentally, not the other person. When you go to bed angry, you wake up angry. Now you are starting out a new day, angry! The cycle repeats and carries on until it wears you down and you simply become tired of being angry. Now you are going to speak to your spouse or the other person and try to pretend that everything is okay and that nothing happened. What have you resolved? Absolutely nothing! At some point, that unresolved issue is going to come back up and you are going to repeat this entire process over again, unless you learn how to apply God's word.

The devil is standing by waiting for just a crack in the door that he can slip into and get in the middle of your relationships and make a mess out of them. Have you ever noticed that when you or someone you know stops applying the word of God to their life, how quickly they start spiraling downward? All it takes is just a little drop of negativity to cause someone to stumble, become frustrated, and quit applying the word to their life. This is why the Bible tells us to not let any unwholesome talk come out of our mouths but to only speak words that build people up. If we can practice building each other up, we will have confidence, peace, and we will strive to apply the word in our lives, because good trees bear good fruit. The Bible tells us that when we get angry and we let words that tear people down fly out of our mouths, we grieve the Holy Spirit. Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God!

Paul also tells us in Ephesians to "get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice." If you call yourself a Christian, you can not be bitter. Being unpleasant is not imitating Christ. Isn't that the goal of a Christian, being as much like Christ as we can? When we walk around with a bitter attitude, our faces frowned up, looking like we have been baptized in lemon juice, we turn non-believers away from the faith. We have all seen examples of this type of people. If I would have seen them before I was saved and thought, "that's what Christians go around looking and acting like"; I would not have wanted to be a Christian either!

We should never have desires of wanting to see people suffer. We should show kindness and compassion to those suffering, giving them hope and encouraging them to seek salvation. If you can display the joy and peace that you should have found in God; everyone you are around will want to know what you found and how they can get some. If you have not found peace in God, you may want to step back and evaluate your walk with Him and how much time you spend with Him.

Paul also tells us to get rid of rage and slander. Do not allow anger to burn and grow inside of you. Doing so can have a negative impact on your health. It also causes you to entertain ideas of a sinful nature. Do not curse and bad talk people. Do not get caught up in the bashing sessions that so often take place, putting people down and pointing out all of their faults. Point out people's strengths and positive attributes.

Finally, Paul says, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Forgiveness, patience, endurance, and compassion are the keys to eliminating anger in your life.

Be implementers and doers of God's word. Do not let the devil into your life by allowing anger to consume you. Always have an attitude and speak words that lift people up. Do not let anger ruin your relationships. Do not let problems go unresolved. Be patient and forgiving. Do not go to bed angry!

Father, I pray that you will help me control my anger. Do not let it consume me and cause me to stumble. Teach me to be patient with others as you have been patient with me. Guide me in the way to manage my relationships and resolve problems in a Godly manner. Help me to speak only words that edify. Teach me to be more forgiving. Help me develop a Christ-like mind. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.


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